Firstly, in order to heal, you have to leave the environment where the trauma is happening. As long as you keep moving in this field, you suppress many aspects of the trauma and pain, and this also suppresses the healing. Due to our defence mechanisms, we often don’t realise the extent of the pain until we leave the environment. After we leave and find safety, healing can begin.

As long as trauma resides in the body and nervous system and isn’t being processed, integrated, resolved and released, then it will continue to negatively impact us and run our lives. Trauma blocks and triggers keep us hostage and prevent us from being the highest version of ourselves and from living our best lives. We don’t have to live lives dictated by what happened to us or what people did to us. We can transmute trauma into growth and strength through the healing that comes through trauma work. Healing trauma brings relief and freedom, and even happiness, success and flourishing – within ourselves, in loving, intimate relationships, in work and career, in family, and in life.

It really is worth doing the work

There is a saying that goes, you can’t talk your way out of trauma. After many years of being purely a talking therapist with some great results with just talking, I would say that this isn’t an absolute truth but it is true for the most part. Additionally, I offer much more than just talking as I give a lot of love to my clients that I know if healing in itself. The client-therapist relationship is key in my form of work as I offer relational therapy. In more recent years through, I have come to believe that some form of somatic work is important because trauma is stored in the body at a physiological level, so it can supercharge the talking therapy and I weave in all sorts of practices now, which my clients tells me they really like and I see better and faster results than ever before. Some of my favourite trauma work methods and practices are:

Breathwork

Meditation

Visualisation

Affirmations

Journalling

Tantra

Tapping

Living your Human Design

Inner Child Work

Massage

Aspecting Work

Parts Work

Psychedelics

Imago Dialogue

I could say a lot about each of these but that would take a whole book! Suffice to say that there are many complexities to consider with each. For instance, many people have been traumatised by Tantric gurus who have abused their devotees, so it is not enough to says Tantra is good for trauma as a blanket statement. However, many people have various forms of sexualised trauma from childhood and adulthood that has lain frozen in their bodies at a cellular level; which has then been healed, integrated, resolved and released through finding a healthy Tantric community that teaches the basic tenets of Tantra. When applying the fundamentals of energy work, breathwork, soundwork, movement and mindful meditation to sex, people’s relationships with themselves, their bodies and other people’s sexuality can be transformed from being stuck in pain, guilt, embarrassment and shame into being in flow in joy, playfulness, aliveness, pleasure and ecstasy. Used in this way, Tantra can be well utilised for trauma work that one might combine with talking therapy for sexual trauma, for instance, or with anything that appeals to the individual.

Remember though, as this post began, leaving the traumatising or triggering environment is a very important first step to healing. It isn’t really possible to begin the healing until you are in a protected space where your basic needs are being met and you can ground and centre yourself in a peaceful place and safely start the inner work. It can take a little or a long time, depending on what the trauma is, and sometimes it continues over a lifetime – peeling back the layers time and time again. But no matter how hard it is or how long it takes, it’s always worth it.

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