Category: relationships
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Relationship as the Path
There are seasons when clarity doesn’t arrive through effort, but through what quietly falls away. After periods of intensity, rupture, or profound relational learning, something simpler can remain — not answers, exactly, but a steadier place to stand. Lately, I’ve been aware that much of what I understand about love, presence, and truth hasn’t come…
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Connecting is Being
The journey of transformation in Imago Relationship Therapy (IRT) returns us to the place where it all started and where life began in the experience of being and feeling connected in a new sensation of relaxation, joyful aliveness and wonder. So say the authors of IRT, Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt, who tell us…
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Imago Relationship Therapy
Imago Relationship Therapy is a method and theory conceived by Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt, authors of the self-help book for couples, Getting The Love You Want: A Guide For Couples. Originally published in 1988, this best-seller was famously endorsed by Oprah Winfrey who first exposed Imago to millions of people on her show…
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Expecting a Gift?
Having conversations in relationships about how to manage expectations around holidays where gift-giving and receiving is traditional can really save massive disappointment, misunderstandings, and resentment. Here are 3 typical scenarios: It’s Christmas day with your beloved and they give you a seemingly thoughtless and low-price gift that they bought from the duty free on their…
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2-person trauma healing
Many couples who have each experienced trauma, especially in their childhoods and subsequent adult relationships bring their own unhealthy coping methods into the partnership, which creates chaos, confusion and conflict. In their separate attempts to manage their individual pain they can create more hurt in their relationship – thereby substituting one painful problem for another.…
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To self-love or nay?
Today’s post considers a contradiction in the philosophy of self-love. Prompted by a comment I once made to a client that we can’t really give love to others unless we have it for ourselves, she argued that this was not true and her conviction profoundly affected me. An exceptionally intelligent and capable young woman who…
Dr Fraya Zella Wolf 