Author: Dr Wolf
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A Long, Dark Summer
New energy is rising after the summer break, which was more like winter in my world. Yes, it’s been like a long, dark summer. I felt in need of a catch-up post. Where do I start? Well, firstly, I’m back and reconnecting to others, which is new. Hello 🙂 Whilst it’s been comforting to know…
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Journalling. Journaling. Journal intime.
The title offers two spellings as the US version is different to the UK’s – and I like the French translation, which highlights the intimate nature of personal reflections. I invite all my clients to journal. “Please buy a journal that you can dedicate to the therapy”, I say. Some take to it straight away,…
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New Year Dreams
It’s 2024! Happy new Year! As a therapist, I have noticed over the last few years that a lot of people have been moving away from New Year’s resolutions, quoting various articles on how they just don’t work. I even had a notice from my daily Guardian news update, exhorting me to not bother trying…
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Connecting is Being
The journey of transformation in Imago Relationship Therapy (IRT) returns us to the place where it all started and where life began in the experience of being and feeling connected in a new sensation of relaxation, joyful aliveness and wonder. So say the authors of IRT, Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt, who tell us…
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Yab Yum
Yab Yum is a classical Tantric sex position, in which the man/shiva or yang partner sits cross-legged or in the lotus position with the woman/shakti or yin partner sitting in his lap with her legs wrapped around his waist. Although Tantric sex is practised in a wealth of positions, the yab yum may well be…
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Trauma Work
Firstly, in order to heal, you have to leave the environment where the trauma is happening. As long as you keep moving in this field, you suppress many aspects of the trauma and pain, and this also suppresses the healing. Due to our defence mechanisms, we often don’t realise the extent of the pain until…
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ACA & Al-Anon 12-Step Groups
I was recently at an ACA meeting, which stands for Adult Children of Alcoholics and Dysfunctional Families, where one member wondered why it had taken so many years of therapy for a therapist to tell them that they were an ‘adult child’. Some people like labels and find them useful and others don’t, so most…
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Imago Relationship Therapy
Imago Relationship Therapy is a method and theory conceived by Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt, authors of the self-help book for couples, Getting The Love You Want: A Guide For Couples. Originally published in 1988, this best-seller was famously endorsed by Oprah Winfrey who first exposed Imago to millions of people on her show…
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Therapy basics and more…
Therapy Basics and More… As I begin working with new clients, there are practices that I suggest and areas that I request individuals and couples pay attention to, which I think of as the therapeutic basics. These aids to healing, change and growth are available to anyone who wants these things – and who doesn’t…
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Expecting a Gift?
Having conversations in relationships about how to manage expectations around holidays where gift-giving and receiving is traditional can really save massive disappointment, misunderstandings, and resentment. Here are 3 typical scenarios: It’s Christmas day with your beloved and they give you a seemingly thoughtless and low-price gift that they bought from the duty free on their…